Moments

That’s the tragedy of growing up – knowing you’ll run out of feeling something new for the first time. The sad thing is, you get only so much of the moments, a handful of them if you’re lucky — and then you spend the rest of your life turning them in your head.

I think that’s why you meant as much to me as you did, that’s why I held on for so long. I didn’t know it back then but you were the last time I would ever feel anything new.

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You’ll Know That Someone Loves You When…

You’ll know that someone loves you because they’ll remember the little things about you. They know that you put only half of a sugar in your coffee and that your least favourite time of the week is Tuesday morning. The people who love us collect our entireties in fragments. They want to understand the whole of you and they know that it begins with the tiny, subtle details. You’ll know that someone loves you when you realize they remember things about you that you’ve never explicitly told them and never expected them to know.
You’ll know that someone loves you when they go out of their way for you. They don’t only want to be around you when it’s simple or convenient – they bend and stretch their schedule to accommodate yours. You’ll know someone loves you when they take the day off work to take care of you when you are sick. They will not ask for praise or keep score of their leniencies – they are genuinely happy to see you and that takes precedence over any minor inconvenience incurred by doing so.

You’ll know that someone loves you when they do not make excuses. They aren’t trying to evade you or cover any suspicious tracks. They are upfront about where they’ve been, where they’re going and where they are. They want you to understand that they are human and they’ve made mistakes. They know you’re going to make them, too. But when somebody loves you they don’t make justifications for the ways in which they’ve let you down. They own up to their errors and they try to make things right. They are in it for the both of you, not just for their own sense of pride.

You’ll know that someone loves you when they don’t need you to always be at your best. They’re patient when you’re struggling, encouraging when you’re uncertain and accepting of the fact that you cannot always be at one hundred percent. They want to help you get there but they’re patient with the process. When somebody loves you they do not deny that you have weaknesses. They understand that you are a work in progress and that you cannot always have it all figured out.
You’ll know that someone loves you when they take your side. This doesn’t mean they agree with everything you do but it means that they don’t disappear when it’s time to work through something tough. When someone loves you they share in all your joys and your pains without being asked. You can assume that your triumph is their triumph and your struggle is their struggle. They understand where your boundaries lie and they find a way to support you without losing themselves in the process. You’ll know that someone loves you when you go into every battle with an unspoken backup.

You’ll know that someone loves you when they want what’s truly best for you – not just what is going to make you immediately happy. Someone who loves you is not going to accept all of your arguments or agree with every decision that you make. They know when you are selling yourself short and they aren’t afraid to tell you that they think so. Someone who loves you doesn’t shy away from uncomfortable conversations. They want you to become the best, most fulfilled version of yourself more than they want to always be in your good graces.

You’ll know that someone loves you because they’ll show up to your life. They won’t leave you hanging on to vague implications or wondering what text messages mean. They’ll show up when they say they will. Tell you what you actually mean. Love you in a way that doesn’t leave room for uncertainties or questions. When somebody loves you they want to give you something concrete to hold onto. There are already so many uncertainties in life. Someone who loves you will not ever want to be one of them.

It’s Better To Be Single Than With Someone Who Doesn’t Understand You

Single or in a relationship — it’s the status that divides society, whether we care to admit it or not.

Regardless of which category you fall into, there will always be someone judging your choices. But lucky for you, it’s your life, and other people’s opinions are quite irrelevant.

At the end of the day, it’s about what you feel, which is why if you choose to be in a relationship, you better make sure it’s a great one.

Too many people settle because they feel as if that’s what they’re supposed to do. They put aside their priorities, their feelings, their goals and their dreams just to assuage expectations society has forced upon them.

How does this make any sense? Shouldn’t you want to be happy on your own? Isn’t it better to be comfortable with who you are than to worry about appeasing someone else?

How can you even be in a successful relationship if you aren’t fully secure with yourself?

If that wasn’t convincing enough, here are some more reasons it’s better to be single than with a person who doesn’t really understand or appreciate the real you.

You won’t feel bad about your lifestyle choices

Wouldn’t you rather spend your time developing yourself rather than defending yourself to someone else?

If your partner is committed to misunderstanding you, why are you even with him or her in the first place? That’s just a complete and utter waste of both of your time.


You’re not seeking approval

An unhealthy relationship is one that requires you to seek approval in anything and everything you do.

Why do you need approval from a partner in order to pursue any endeavor that’s important to you?


You’re not walking on eggshells

There’s no worse feeling than being uneasy and uncomfortable around someone you’re in a relationship with.

Isn’t the entire point of being with someone the fact that you can feel completely confident around him or her?


You don’t have to constantly explain yourself and your decisions

A decision is a decision, and that’s it. If it’s something you feel strongly enough about, that should be reason enough for your counterpart’s support.

Sure, it’s natural to ask questions, but that’s quite different than constantly having to defend yourself.


You don’t question yourself so much

The sign of an unhealthy relationship is one in which you never really feel confident in any decision or thought you make or have.

If you are constantly wondering if you are good enough, then you need to nix the source of these concerns, and if it’s your partner, so be it — you’ll be better off without him or her.


You can say whatever is on your mind without being judged

Your thoughts, beliefs and ideas are your own, so you should feel free to express them in any manner you deem fit. If someone has a problem with that, he or she can leave.


You create your own happiness

Your happiness is based solely on you and what you bring to your life.

It’s not dependent upon another person, especially when that person can’t even understand the choices you make in your life.


Your life choices are contingent upon you — and only you

When you’re single, your choices completely revolve around you and what you want to do.

If you’re in an unhealthy and non-understanding relationship, why would you even want to base your choices on someone else?


You don’t feel constantly disrespected

There is absolutely no reason to keep a person in your life, whether it’s a friend or significant other, who blatantly disrespects you.

The only way for relationships to grow and prosper is if there is mutual respect for both parties.


You don’t have to defend yourself

Why would you waste your precious time and energy defending actions you believe in?

Your partner should want to support you, not undermine everything you do. If that’s the case, it’s most likely time for you to reevaluate your relationship.


Decision-making is difficult enough when taking only your perspective into account

It’s hard enough to make a decision when the only person you’re considering in the equation is yourself.

Now add one more person into the mix, and that decision just got infinitely harder to make.


You only have so much energy

There are only so many hours in the day. Life is too short to spend it with someone who won’t make it better.

Exert your energy seeking out like-minded people who support you.


Being with someone shouldn’t make you feel more alone

If you feel more isolated with a partner than without one, you’ve got a serious issue on your hands. A significant other is supposed to enhance your life, not diminish it.

You want a partner in this life, not a parole officer, and if your SO starts to seem like the latter rather than the former, well, you know what decision you should be making…

Recovered!

Hi, loves! Sorry for lack of posts and updates. My account has been hacked. It went with minimal issues but let’s thank God, I’ve recovered it already and will publish every pending posts weeks ago.

I hope everyone’s fine and been enjoying Summer! 🙂

My Happy List // 02

– White sheets and pillows
– Late night talks
– Snickers
– The feeling after bath
– Staycations
– Amusement Parks
– Staring at someone
– Seeing someone smile because of me
– Summer catch ups/ Night caps
– Having at least 6 hours of sleep
– My best friends
– Kids

10 Signs na Isa Kang Dakilang Tamad

Just like lotsa peeps out there, most of us has to admit that we somehow have our lazy asses. And now as I continue to go on with this shizzton of reasons why we are, I want to do this in Taglish. :)😂😁👍👌

So eto na nga. You belong to the Lazy Club if:

1. YOU WOKE UP EARLY PLANNING TO DO THE CHORES PERO KUNG ANO ANONG WALANG KWENTA INUNA MO.

Eto ka ba? Yung nagising ka ng 7am then you want to be productive for the day so nag iisip ka sa sarili mo ng anong mga dapat mong gawin. Kahit bago ka matulog kagabi mo sabi mo sa sarili mo gigising ka ng maaga. Pag gising mo naman inuna mo pa tingnan ang cellphone mo kung nag reply na ba ang taong nilalandi mo or kung nag good morning na ba si crush sayo. Mag popost ka pa sa Twitter/Facebook mo. Hindi mo namalayan alas dose na ng tanghali at wala ka na nasimulan. So what’s your plan, teh? Kama kama nalang? Tapos makakatulog ka na. Iisipin mo na wala ka na gana gumawa. Sa halip na nakapag laba ka nalipasan ka na ng sinag ng araw.

2. NANONOOD KA NG TV PERO AYAW MO NG PALABAS. KAYA LANG MALAYO YUNG REMOTE SO GINUGUSTO MO NALANG DIN YUNG PINAPANOOD MO.

Aaminin ko na. Hindi ako ‘to. Hahaha. (Ako yung number 1. 👆)

So yun nga. Let’s say katatapos mo lang gumawa ng isang bagay or kauuwi mo lang. Umupo ka sa living room nyo habang nanonood ang mga kasama mo. Tapos umalis na sila (baka kasi kakain na, may pasalubong ka e.) Eventually you realized ang corny corny ng palabas at ayaw mo nito. Ang problema, malayo ang remote sayo. Nga nga ka nalang. Hindi mo na nilipat. Tamad ka eh.

3. IF YOU HAVE TO SAY SOMETHING MORE THAN ONCE, IT’S NOT WORTH THE ENERGY.

Nagkukuwento ka sa best friend mong wala nang ibang inatupag kundi itext ng itext yung boyfriend nyang wala namang pakealam sa kanya. So yun, kwento ka lang ng kwento. Mejo engs ka na nga kasi kahit alam mong hindi sya nakikinig kwento ka pa din. Pag sinabi nyang ulitin mo ulit, at ulitin mo pa ng ulitin hanggang sa maintindihan nyang bruha sya, hindi mo na uulitin kasi tinatamad ka na. Nakakatamad nga naman yun friend.

4. YUNG KUMUHA KA NG SOMETHING SA FRIDGE NYO TAPOS PAG MAY NAHULOG, SISIPAIN MO SA ILALIM.

(Bwiset ka bakit ginagawa mo yun? Hindi pa ako sa level mo. Haha)

So, eto yung mga taong ubod ng tamad na hindi manlang maiyuko ang mga likod nila para limutin yung kung ano man yung nahulog dun.

5. YUNG SA HALIP NA SA DINING TABLE KA KAKAIN, KUKUHA KA NG PAGKAIN TAPOS SA KAMA KA KAKAIN HABANG NANONOOD NG TV.

Eto yung mga lazyasses na kakapanood ng paborito nilang love teams na sobrang baduy naman, nagkakandarapa na sila sa panonood. Hindi na nila pinapansin mga magulang nila sa tuwing sasabihin nito na “Nak, lika ka na sa mesa. Kakain na.” Ang gagawin mo pupunta ka nga sa mesa. Kukuha ka ng pagkain sa plato. Babalik ka sa kwarto at dun ka kakain. KAGATIN KA SANA NG LANGGAM SA SINGIT.

6. SA HALIP NA AYUSIN MO KAMA MO AFTER MO MATULOG, HINDI MO GINAWA AT INIISIP MO NA MAGUGULO DIN NAMAN ULIT.

Yung ang dami dami mong unan na nagtatanggalan na yung cases at yung sheets ng kama mo hindi na pantay sa sobrang likot mong matulog tapos yung blanket mo nasa floor na yung kalahati.

Pero dahil sobrang tamad ka iiwasan mo nalang tingnan. Ang mindset mo kasi, “bakit ko pa lilinisin kung magugulo din naman?”

Grabe wala naman bang ipis dyan?

7. NATAPON YUNG TUBIG SA FLOOR NYO, HINDI MO MANLANG PUPUNASAN KASI MATUTUYO DIN NAMAN.

Yung uminom ka ng tubig. Nag salin ka mula sa pitcher pero dahil hindi ka nakatingin kasi aanga anga ka din minsan, natapon si water. Kahit nabasa yung paa mo, yung paa mo lang pupunasan mo. Yung floor hindi na kasi ang layo ng rug or ng mop.

8. MAY SINEARCH KA SA GOOGLE AND YOU CANNOT FIND IT ON THE FIRST PAGE, YOU TELL YOURSELF “IT DOESN’T EXIST.”

May hinahanap kang information about something pero dahil tamad ka din, hanggang first page ka nalang ng Google at hindi mo na itinuloy ang pag click ng mouse.

9. YOU SCREW THE “TERMS AND CONDITIONS”

Everyone’s guilty. Aminin!

Hindi ko na pahahabain pa ito pero nakakatamad naman talaga basahin yung shtloads of agreements na yun. Sa halip na nakapag blower ka na ng buhok mo, hindi mo pa din tapos basahin yung sobrang haba na yun. Minsan gusto mo nalang sisihin kung sino gumawa at nagpauso eh.

10. HINAHAYAAN MO NALANG.

Yung control number ng cellphone mo kunware is 09171628361810191615. So yun. Tamad ka. Hindi mo binasa lahat eh. Tamad ka talaga.

So there you go guys. Thanks for reading. Hindi mo naman siguro babasahin ‘to if hindi ka curious kung tamad ka din. Okay lang yan, but not too much okay? 😁:oops: Thanks, lazy fat ass.